As I run through life pretty fast, sometimes I have to remind myself that guardrails need to be applied. Guardrails are not the two metal rails on the side of a road that keep you from going off a cliff. The guardrails I’m talking about are the mental and physiological boundaries one needs to put on themselves to keep their life in check.

Sometimes you run a little too fast and might run into a guardrail, but the great thing about having a guardrail is it brings you back to the center of the road. It brings you back to a place where you can thrive and go very fast for a very long time.

I’ve lived my life and career a lot of times without guardrails, and usually, like any good road without a guardrail, sometimes your car goes over a cliff. But you can always bring it back and find a way to drive with guardrails. The figurative meaning of this is to put boundaries in your life. Know when it’s going too far. Know when you’re going too fast. Know when you’re going out of control. But also know and respect the proper speed, the right energy at the right time.

To me, that is what putting guardrails on the road in front of me is all about. You have to respect the guardrails. You have to know that when you’re getting too close, or things are getting too unsteady, you’re going to have to brake. You’re going to have to slow down and refocus. But know that the guardrails you put around yourself are only going to help you in the long run. They have for me, and I think about guardrails constantly and how I need to apply them in my daily life.

Over the last month, I have started a new trend to get my day going. Every day, I wake up and read a couple of things: a daily devotion and a daily motivation. Then, I make a list of three things I am grateful for. Not all of them have to be things; they can be people, places, or situations. But I make this list and have diligently maintained this habit over the last month.

Over the course of the year, I began my days feeling grateful and thinking grateful thoughts. Now, I actually put pen to paper and write down at least three things, sometimes more, but never less, that I’m truly grateful for.

People, places, and situations come into our lives every minute of every day. Some make us feel truly grateful, some make us feel unnerved, and some make us feel downright scared. But by taking the time before I begin each day to write down three things I’m grateful for, I start my day off on the right foot.

Being grateful is difficult, even in the wake of disaster. Even when bad things happen, even when you find yourself unsure of what to do with a certain situation, person, place, or thing. A sense of gratitude can really change your overall mindset and how you approach and view the world.

I’m not saying that everything is sunshine and roses. Today, one of the things I was grateful for was a somewhat uncomfortable situation in my life: a business deal that isn’t great and that I’m looking for a way out of. But I turned my perspective around to be grateful for it.

The essence of it is a real sense of gratitude, starting with making a daily list of at least three things I’m grateful for. Not all of these things are good; sometimes, it’s good to be grateful for things that aren’t going your way in life because they make you stronger.

As the days and miles have recently been rolling over, I have spent a great deal of time in a mode of reflection.

What has spurred this on is watching my children, who seem to be getting older and more grown up with each passing day. Seeing my oldest daughter not too far away from her teenage years makes me look back over a period in my life where everything has moved by really fast. The fact that all my kids are getting older, my time spent in my company is fast approaching 20 years, and I am now in my mid-40s has caused me to have moments of deep reflection. It’s also been interesting to travel with a much younger group of people in the company and see what things are important to them and how they view the world. All of this has triggered random moments of reflection.

In these moments, it is really rewarding to pause and think about how grateful and blessed I am for the things in my life.

Even with all the tests, trials, tribulations, and stress, it is still a truly wonderful life to live.

There are challenges every day, but I wouldn’t trade a minute of it.

One thing I have really leaned on heavily this year is developing a real sense of gratitude.

Practicing a genuine mindset of gratitude has shaped me more powerfully than anything I have ever experienced. When things start to go wrong in my day, or I have sudden feelings of tremendous stress and anxiety, I find it easy to pause and think about something I am grateful for—be it a person, place, or thing. Shifting to a mindset of gratitude helps me not to worry so much about what is bothering me in the moment but to focus on thoughts that make me happy. It brings a peaceful and pleasant feeling to wash over me.

Sometimes it is easy to get caught up in the moment and in every little detail, but far too often these things cause stress, which creates anger and negative thoughts to occupy space in our minds. Remember that when this happens, simply stop and think about what you are truly grateful for, and everything will be better.

Over the last few weeks, culminating in an event out of town last night, I have witnessed and been deeply touched by the thought of something bigger than myself being present in the world.

Through all the days, activities, tasks, people, phone calls, and situations that you deal with, sometimes you end each day just blown away by the sheer number of things you have to do physically and mentally. Every given day, it’s both surprising and shocking that the human mind can go through so many things at once while maintaining composure and staying focused on the next task.

However, last night ended a little differently. After a pretty busy week, I attended an event that promotes helping underprivileged children by providing them with a home, education, and a great environment. A friend of mine invited me to this event several years ago. Not knowing what to expect, I decided to attend with my wife, Amy, and we were really blown away. It’s become something we do almost annually.

It’s not easy to attend. It’s not easy to find people to take over your daily responsibilities, especially with four kids and all their activities—from baseball to dance to friends. But this event has touched us in a meaningful way, and it serves as a good reminder that there is something bigger than yourself. There is something bigger than your daily problems, worries, and situations that can get you so unraveled and focused only on yourself.

Something bigger than yourself can come in many forms. It can come from a higher power, from something that touches you and to which you devote time, energy, and resources, or simply from being reminded on a daily basis. There is something out there bigger than each of us.

As someone who always believes in the power of positive thinking, I truly think attitude is everything. Until the other day, I had never understood what the word “affirmation” meant. I’d heard it before, but I hadn’t really spent much time investigating its meaning.

But when someone asked, “What is one thing that could happen to prevent you from getting angry?” I responded, “If more people took the time to tell me that I did something good, or that they were impressed with how I handled something, it would probably make me more mild-mannered.”

This may seem odd, but I am someone who always believes in praising the work of others. This is partly because, early in my career, I learned that praising people makes it easier to be direct and firm with them when they mess something up. You always had to be overly positive when acknowledging work that was well done.

But I’ve now learned that positive affirmations go a long way. They influence how you think about things, your mental state, and how you view yourself and the work you’re doing. Don’t get me wrong – I don’t need anyone to tell me how great I am. I do a good enough job of that on a daily basis 😊. But what is really rewarding and encouraging is to hear positive affirmations that sometimes come unexpectedly.

It could be someone simply saying, “Hey, I like your shirt,” or “It looks like you’ve lost weight,” before they even start discussing work-related things. Or it might be, “Hey, that was a really good job,” “Congratulations on a job well done,” or “That was a really nice piece of creative you thought up.”

You can give positive affirmations in many ways, but the simple fact is, you just need to give them. People need to hear them, yourself included. And the more you give, the more likely you are to receive.

I was in a meeting earlier this week with a client who doubles as a car dealer and a preacher. I’ll let you pause right there. That, in itself, seems like the most outlandish dual set of roles one can possess. However, in talking with this individual, I realized they truly believe, as I do, that your attitude is everything. But this person delved a little deeper.

He believes that your attitude genuinely creates everything in your life: your good opportunities, your personal interactions, your day-to-day demeanor, and every opinion of every outcome you may encounter. Your attitude really creates everything in your life because how you start your day, how you interact with people, how you respond to those who cut you off in traffic, how you speak to the person at the drive-thru window at Starbucks in the morning, and how you greet the first person you see when you walk into your workplace truly sets the tone for how your day will unfold.

You’re going to experience good things every day, and you’re going to face challenges every day, but your attitude truly shapes your life. It’s a very simple concept and nothing earth-shattering. Yet, taking my mantra one step further – that attitude is everything – I now have a deeper understanding, thanks to this individual and their mentality, that your attitude indeed shapes your life.

You can lead a good life. You can have an average life, or you can have a difficult life. But all of this will be determined by your attitude. Attitude is the simplest thing you can control that determines your success’s outcome. People may get tired of hearing me always talk about attitude, but I firmly believe I would not be anywhere close to where I am now. I would not have accomplished half of what I have managed to do on will, knowledge, and reputation alone, without a significant emphasis on attitude.

Attitude truly does shape everything in your life.

I’ve chosen to live my life alcohol-free and in total sobriety. For many, this presents a stark contrast to my previous lifestyle. However, these past 90 days have been the best I can remember. My mind is clear. Burdens have been lifted from my shoulders, and I feel a renewed vigor for life that was absent before.

Yes, I still work as hard and run as fast – if not faster – than before, but now I’m clear-headed and consistently feel great, as opposed to always being tired. The decision to stop drinking stemmed from being sick and tired of feeling sick and tired. But I’m not an alien, even though some people treat me as such.

It feels odd at dinners when I order a mocktail or ask for a virgin drink or something non-alcoholic. It’s also odd meeting up with long-time friends, with whom I used to enjoy our common Friday afternoon beer, and watching them struggle to find the right words, suggesting maybe we should get coffee instead.

I’m not an alien. I can sit with you while you have a beer. I can maintain a good conversation over dinner, whether pre-game drinks and dinner wines are involved or not. I’m not an alien, even though some family members seem at a loss for words around me. They just sit there, looking at me, perhaps wondering what’s going on inside my head.

I’m still the same person, with the same thoughts and feelings, although my feelings are now much better than ever before. Sometimes, I just wish people would realize I’m the same person I’ve always been – only less intoxicated and much more caffeinated.

I’m not an alien, and I’m really enjoying this new venture and a new page in my life. I wish this didn’t seem like a plea for help, but I hope people would realize that individuals choose different paths in life and should be treated as they would like to be treated, not based on your perceptions, but on the genuine, heartfelt qualities of your friendship with them.

Every week, new opportunities come my way. Some are business-related, others personal, but all of them present themselves as unique opportunities. This week, a business opportunity that I had pursued several times before resurfaced. I believe this was the third or fourth attempt to secure this particular piece of business, and although it never previously worked out in my favor, it always left me eager to try again.

Well, finally, it happened. I reached the finish line. I crossed the goal. However you want to phrase it, the battle was won. I secured the piece of business, and it looks like it’s going to be a very large and successful venture for my company.

As I reflected on this success this afternoon, the phrase “try, try again” kept coming to mind. Many people might have given up or harbored a negative attitude toward an opportunity that took so long to materialize. But that’s something I just don’t understand. I’ve never been one to give up. I’ve always been willing to try as many times as necessary to succeed.

So, my thought for the week is: always keep trying. It’s more than a mantra – it’s a way of life, a mentality that I deeply cherish, even on the most frustrating days. It’s always rewarding to have the perseverance to keep going.

Now that I’ve got several months of total and complete clarity under my belt, I find that clearer thinking makes it easier to confront difficult situations directly. What I mean is, I used to tiptoe around tough situations, sometimes not speaking my mind – a concept that might be hard for some to imagine. I often handled things very delicately, aiming not to upset or offend anyone or anything. Now, after having time to think clearly and see things in a different light, I find myself wanting to tackle difficult situations head-on.

Mastering the art of addressing the elephant in the room, even in a room full of people, has become my newest and greatest talent. I’ve discovered that the more you confront issues directly and have straightforward conversations about topics no one wants to address, the clearer your thinking becomes. This clarity allows you to resolve any situation in minutes, a process that previously might have taken days. The more experiences of this nature I encounter, the more I realize how much time I wasted in the past by not confronting situations directly.

Yes, sometimes it’s better to let things play out. Sometimes, it’s better to give things space and time before having tough conversations. However, the more I observe and the clearer my vision becomes across all kinds of situations, the more I recognize the power of bringing things into the open and rationalizing the best outcomes or solutions. It’s not always easy or pleasant, but it sure takes a lot of wasted time out of the equation.

Address things head-on. You will relieve yourself from a lot of undue stress and wasted time.